What would happen, if we truly loved ourselves? Jesus said we should "love one another the same way we love ourselves." Galatians 5:14 and others
If you're loving others better than yourself, you're doing it wrong. Step back and see how you treat yourself.
How do you think about yourself?
Do you punish yourself?
Do you allow grace for yourself?
Do you forgive yourself?
Loving and serving others is great, but if you are condemning yourself in the process, you have missed the example.
Take time to be fueled.
Take time to be quiet.
Take time to care for yourself. Then, when you're filled up, you can overflow onto others.
We can't give what we don't possess.
We can't give what we don't possess.
How do you know you're not loving yourself? You start resenting the people you are doing things for. You resent that they continually ask you, or expect you to do what they can do for themselves. In fact, you've helped make them unable to do for themselves. You think so little of your own sanity, that you over function by creating dysfunction. Why would everything fall apart if you didn't do it? Would it really? Or have you made yourself so indispensable that no one has any respect for you and your need to be fueled? Is it a disrespect that you are teaching?
If we aren't loving ourselves, it's hard to expect that others will love us. Love us well.
Love yourself well. Model it to those in your life; children, friends, coworkers, spouse, friends, parents. Not only will they learn to respect and love you well, but they will learn how to love themselves.